Respect #2

April 26, 2013

I stumbled upon this video. A girl auditioning on one of the X Factor shows late last year.

In light of what I discussed in my previous post, I thought I’d share it.

I feel that the girl in this clip does not show respect for the male judges or male audience members, least of all for herself.

This girl – and many like her – never deserve to be attacked, raped or anything of the such. Absolutely not. Ever.

Let’s say she were raped after this performance (due to the outfit / blonde hair/ fake tan / is a woman / WHATEVER!), I would be the person shouting loudest, that what she suffered was a crime and a violation of her personal rights.

I need to make that point perfectly clear.

But when looking at the issue of respect,  isn’t she disrespecting men by treating them as the mindless creatures I described in my previous post?
“The men will vote for me, because I’ll give them what they want.”

On the same note, she is also disrespecting women, by demonstrating the notion that there is no way to succeed without hyper-sexualising oneself.

What say you?

Deep Breath



5 Responses to “Respect #2”

  1. Verina said

    I agree with you!

    • questionsforwomen said

      I’m trying to distinguish that line where this can be taught to girls, without offence.
      I was worried that by putting up the video I was shaming her – but I just thought it perfectly demonstrated what I tried to explain in the previous post.
      Thanks Verina x

  2. godtisx said

    This kind of thing makes me “sad,” for the woman at hand because it shows the clear socialization of a woman as a sex object. I mean, she picked up the value for displaying herself this way somewhere as do many other young women. And many times society values this expression in a woman above and beyond everything, quickly coining the phrase “Sex sells.” Proud the judges didn’t mindlessly go along.

    I know some people might say they slut shamed her, but I don’t think so. Throwing your body around assuming there is a reaction to be had is sort of commodifying yourself. To me, this isn’t about being sexy, it’s a performance for a reaction.

    And it didn’t address the type of talent this show is seeking, it’s more this assumption that showing body trumps all – which is a message women get via media a lot.

    • questionsforwomen said

      This made me sad too. She actually looked quite gutted at the end – like she couldn’t understand why the judges didn’t go for it.
      She didn’t respect the male judges (especially the one she straddled) – treating them as though they would be mindless.
      She is most definitely a product of this hyper-sexualised, ‘sex sells’ world and she was objectifying herself.
      Poor lamb. And on TV.
      Nice to hear from you again 🙂 x

      • godtisx said

        She did. And I think it’s even more tragic that she hadn’t a clue what went wrong. She definitely didn’t respect the male judges, but in her aim to complete the sexualization of herself, she was about to do the same to the female judge.

        She bought into herself as sexual product so much, she didn’t even think. Society and media says it’s okay to be overt and aggressive, so it must be. ‘Course they’re not really offended,’ is the thinking there. But she was wrong, the judge that ran looked put off.

        So the narrative that had her express herself by throwing sex has created a machine, her purpose to do everything sexual short of having sex. The female judge was right, the singing is beside the point for her. She is all about acting out, sex.

        And it is acting, because in this kind of thing there is no other.

        Just her on stage and her antics or something.

        Nice to speak with you again! 🙂 xo

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