A nice one for the girls.

November 10, 2012

Just a quick post – as I’m watching the movie In Her Shoes on the telly.

What a delight. I’ve been enjoying it so much.

It has it’s touches of ‘Hollywood’ – yes – but the main protagonists are all women and we see all their flaws – their different shapes and looks – as well as their gifts.

It looks at the sisterhood…the good, the bad and the ugly.

And there’s beauty in their flaws.

Toni Collette is always her amazing self – a.mazing – and Cameron Diaz is fantastic; she was great in this role.  There’s also Shirley Maclaine…and last, but not least, a divine collection of gorgeous shoes!

It’s like you can kind of relate to every female character, in some tiny way (or in many)  – whether as a part of you or as a part of the women around you.

Complex women. Like us.

Anyway, I just wanted to share this movie with you – one that (I thought) portrayed a more truthful representation of a cross-section of women. This seems to be a lacking element of the movies nowadays.

Watch it one day – and please be sure to visit me again and tell me what you thought of it.

We need more movies like this.

Nigh Night.

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October 12, 2012

On the first International Day of the Girl (yesterday 11th Oct) – we’re reading about a 14 yr old girl who has been shot in the head by the Taliban for speaking up; wanting education for girls. She was labelled an infidel.
An INFIDEL.
Educating girls is the answer. Studies have shown that the more war-mongering nations, are the ones that restrict girls attending school.
This post from Crates and Ribbons is great.
Deep Breath.
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Crates and Ribbons

The 11th of October is International Day of the Girl. Today, we raise our voices in support of girls worldwide, and pledge to double our efforts to invest in their future. Not only will today go down in history as being the first ever Day of the Girl, it is also made especially poignant by the case of Malala Yousafzai, who lies unconscious in hospital, having been shot in the head by the Taliban for speaking out about the importance of girls’ education.

Reading about the tragedy two days ago, I kept thinking of a picture I had seen a while ago, and I decided to look for it again:

 

And that’s what the Taliban’s actions have revealed in the end – fear. Because Malala is not just any 14-year-old girl. By publicly condemning the actions of the Taliban and advocating for the education of girls, she represents an…

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Our bad judgement.

September 22, 2012

If you’ve ever passed judgement on a mum – because of her child’s actions…

(I’d say that about covers everyone – including me, of course), then read the following article:

Click here.

It’s true, isn’t it?

Just another way in which both genders pick on women – ESPECIALLY by other women.

Sisterhood.

It’s the only way.

Big kiss.

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The image above comes from an article called – Pro-birth, pro-life or pro-choice; a very simple question – and it states:

Once a child is born, it has needs that can include anything from medical care, food, shelter, adoptive services, various support services and clothing. Cuts in support systems for low-income women and children seem to contradict the pro-life belief system. Cuts in many programs that help provide care for these children have come under attack as the GOP pushes for “no new taxes” and cutting current spending. It seems that those who are the most vulnerable are not exempt from the pending cuts and this ties directly to the quote made by Sister Joan and begs the question: If you are pro-life, shouldn’t your concerns exist beyond the womb?

It is extremely hypocritical to pro-choice advocates to see pro-life advocates pushing for restricting a woman’s right to choose what happens to her own body in one breath, then pushing to restrict tax dollars from being spent on necessary services to the poor in the next. It appears on the surface as if a woman who is forced to bear a child – whether conceived from rape, incest or other causes – she is then left struggling to find a way to care for the child with no help from the GOP.

Pro-life advocates have decided that in order to push their personal agenda on poor women, they will prevent them from having access to birth control, possible life-saving services and medical care by restricting and sometimes even defunding family planning. This leaves these women with no options. This has created rage and anger.

This leave only one final question: Are you pro-birth, pro-life or pro-choice?

Question #94: Which one are you?

Deep Breath.

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PS – Actually, I’d like to end this post with a giggle. My friend Jacquie and I, were having a laugh about this Monty Python clip from The Meaning of Life, earlier today – because sometimes, you’ve just got to laugh!

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HAHAHAhahahaha!! Good stuff.

I’ve had an epiphany – a bit of an ‘a-ha’ moment. Well, it wasn’t so much that I didn’t know it before, but more that I was hit with a simple and succinct realisation.

It’s the simplicity of it that is both liberating and equally terrifying – because regardless of its clarity – we are trapped.

You know all the famous modern icons? – I can’t believe what we call them ‘icons’ for – icons like Kim Kardashian?

We’re paying them.

In turn, they spend the money we give them on ‘perfecting’ themselves:

On make-up – THEY DON’T PAY FOR.

On clothes – THEY DON’T PAY FOR.

On ‘procedures’ – THEY DON’T PAY FOR.

Cars – Technology – ‘Gift Bags’ – EVERYTHING!…they don’t pay.

We do.

And then we worship them for creating the image we can never have (as I wrote in my penultimate post Why it’s worse now) and buy more beauty products, clothes, ‘procedures’ to try to replicate it. In turn, we keep fattening their pay packets, as the beauty industry uses them over and over again – making them icons.

THIS IS PURE INSANITY!

This vicious cycle is not only never-ending – its predatory qualities and hunger appear to be insatiable.

OK, here comes a Shout Out.

We are intelligent beings, ladies – VERY intelligent:

Question #87: So why are we doing it to ourselves? WHY?

And we are doing it from both sides – one side (the majority of us) perpetuate it by BUYING into this mono; limiting; ‘hot’ look, while on the other side, we also have the women who agree to represent us so poorly and participate in our exploitation that way.

It’s a trap.

As a fly is digested slowly in the Venus Fly Trap, so are we.

I don’t know about you, but that’s why this clarity is a tad terrifying to me – because its EFFECTS are devastating. Statistics are showing girls and women spiralling into a world of depression and worse. I even know many mothers who loathe their bodies after growing a human being in them – instead of wearing their shape with a pure sense of pride – of the miracles their bodies are.

But, as I said in response to a comment from the above-mentioned post, EVERYTHING IS TAUGHT. Everything.

So it’s time. Regardless of what’s happened in the past – the only way to move forward is to say, “OK, yes, we used to do it like that or accept things as they are – but not any more.

Do not pay any attention to women like Lara Bingle, who so graciously had the following picture of herself taken (which has also been photoshopped to an inch of its life):

…because as I’ve said to my students at school – ANYONE CAN DO THAT! Anyone can have sex. Anyone can take their clothes off. It’s not a difficult thing to do…and yet we end up rewarding women for doing just that??

The challenging and hard thing is NOT doing it the easy way – through shortcuts – as there’s always a price to pay…

…and ain’t we paying for it now!

The irony being that the money from our pockets, provides the funding for more.

I repeat: Why are we doing it to ourselves?

Deep Breath everyone – it’s going to be a bumpy ride.

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This isn’t a new story really – when fashion meets with unsightly and disturbing images.

The following article from Jezebel click here, contains the response from the European magazine that published the contentious images, to the outrage expressed.

What do you think?

In the comments, there seems to be (what I see as) the typical, knee-jerk reaction – like ‘the dog ate my homework’ of responses:

“If it were a guy, we wouldn’t think twice…”

Uuuuummm…seeing as it’s statistically women who are victims of domestic violence from men…I’d like to see ANY images with men displaying a slit throat for a fashion shoot – furthermore – we all know that if a man were used for a violent image like a slit throat, he would have, stereotypically, gotten that way by the hands of another man…in something like a war shot. The male gender is more violent than the female.

Please understand that that last comment isn’t against all men. Not at all. I’m simply stating it factually, not personally.

Now to the women.

I need to ask.

What are the women agreeing to be shot this way, all about?

…and this question also applies to women who have their photo taken on all-fours for a t-shirt or those who play football in lingerie…just to name a few.

Why aren’t women saying, “No, I’m not doing that. It’s not good for the sisterhood”?

I understand that there is the freedom of expression.

I cherish it.

About me – I looooove fashion. The only magazine I’ve ever subscribed to (and still do), is InStyle magazine. Showing edgy and strong beauty in the women they depict, has a positive influence on us. It’s wonderful and, I believe, empowering. Surely there are some of you out there who know what I mean! It’s simply stunning images of women, showcasing the inventive and unique ways they wear their fashion. Their expression. I can’t afford any of the clothes – but I get ideas on how to play with my limited, cheapy versions! Haha!

Love, love, love!

Question #61:…so WHY does the fashion industry need to use images of women as victims of violence to sell their products, when it ultimately does more harm than good?

Is there no compassion for women who have suffered such atrocities? Especially from the women who agree to be shot this way?

Deep Breath.

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